What The Flip

April *first BABY!!! Now I know what you are thinking, ‘what the flip is goin on here?’ Well, I will tell you. Today is a great day to break your diet. On top of that it is also an amazing day to give up on your dreams. Today is the kind of day you don’t want a restart, naw, you just quit playing. Because today- right now is the moment I tell you to fucking walk away.

That is right- dreams, goals, ambitions, better life, shit getting better, accomplishments; waste of time. For real- not worth it. Instead of all that, make enough money to by at least a cheap bottle of wine a day and do that, become a wino. Make wino friends, do wino things, walk up in the streets, go on drunken adventures, talk to strangers, go down the rabbit hole of how bad could this get and never see the light of day again.

Or

You could start fresh with a new month to fucking kill it. You could go big on your dreams, set an action plan, start the sketch to a three week painting you have been putting off. Actually enroll in an online class to get out of your dead end job. Talk to that person that has been on your mind. Take an old dream and breath new life into it. It is April first, WE ARE IN SPRING- COME TO LIFE WITH THE REST OF THE WORLD. Do something that makes you feel alive.

Alright. I am out.

Later Gator,

Nino.

*It is April first; April fools day, don’t be fucking crazy the first two paragraphs are just a joke. Now go out there and kill it.

Freedom Is From The Inside Out

I just want you to know that you don’t have to think the same way everyone else does.

It is true.

School, major religions, and conservatism would have you believe there is a right way to think and feel about everything.

Their stance is bullshit oversimplification, based on old authorities.

It assumes we are all the same, with the same capabilities and denies our personalities and their sway on our life and what we can make of it. I do believe we are limited by our brains ability to solve problems and to get along with others. The more we learn about others cognitive abilities and the sway biochemistry has on our lives the less rational it is to judge others under arbitrary standards- even if they are old and considered sacred.

With that- The freedom it will take for you to be yourself relies on you getting past society’s mental barriers. The hope is once you accept yourself, your flaws, your inabilities; you gain the ability to accept others flaws and all. Which should make you less of an asshole and a more loving person. It doesn’t have to it is just a hope.

Society is like a jail cell. The freedom to be yourself comes from throwing off the shackles of someone else’s expectations of you. To open the door is to have enough courage to step out and be yourself in front of others. To walk out of it all together is to boldly enough say- FUCK IT THIS IS ME.

It will go two maybe three ways for you, people will be apathetic to you, people will hate you, and people will love you. None of that matters, what matters is the soul that is moving this beast of a human being called you and consuming as much of life as you can like you are Godzilla. Really though, moving into the freedom of being yourself takes *the courage to be disliked.

Alright, I gotta go.

Later Gator,

Nino.

*The Courage to Be Disliked is a book, I liked the ideas, did not like the format, worth the read though.

Becoming World Class at Anything In Life

What if the best thing you are good at doesn’t mean you are the best in the world at it? What if you are just good enough? What if you arent’ even good enough to make a living at doing what you love, because your work is subpar?

DON’T FUCKING WORRY ABOUT IT!

I know we have to make money, we have to live we have to do things to support ourselves. But we are talking about living! I know it seems like we are talking about work, but work is a part of our lives, we do not live to work, we work to live.

Let’s think about it like this if you like to hike should you stop hiking because you are smaller, slower, or weaker than other hikers? NO.

How about this- if you are ugly, out of shape, dumb, or irresponsible does that mean you are unworthy of a romantic relationship with someone else? NO, again.

Doing what we enjoy, what we love, what makes us come alive has nothing to do with money, unless we need to work to make it happen.

Doing what you are good at is pleasure enough.

Please, do not take it to heart if you suck and quit.

Life is short, you will die, and you might miss what make you come alive because you tied yourself worth to something that isn’t meant to make you feel better about yourself, but make you feel alive in the moment.

Later Gator,

Nino.

 

 

Postscript:

When I was coaching Soccer for my sons, I would let the kids pick teams. Someone always sucked and someone was always last picked.

Here is the thing, just because you are last picked doesn’t mean you cannot enjoy the game. Think about it like this would you rather watch other people play or be on the field playing? Life is like that.

OH, and the title was written for those who need to look in the mirror and stop making money the sole measuring stick in life. Sorry, for click-baiting you.