We make decisions based on our priorities and what we know.
What stops most people from pursuing their innate desires and flourishing in life is they don’t know what is available for them to do. Most people are limited in their thinking and experience and do not know about millions of jobs that exist that would make them come alive. They simply show up to work and grind with no end in sight. They say they are stuck in a dead-end job and if you ask them what they would like to do, most do not know.
Most people start work looking at it like it is the end of the adventure. They struggled to get work, they interviewed, and they finally got in, yay. They don’t realize they are moving into a new adventure. They don’t consider this a time to grow and see opportunity. Like I said it became the end of their adventure.
Let’s not do that.
I am no different except, that I chose my working career to be second to my family. For that, I am rewarded with a beautiful family that loves each other and I have had the privilege of raising my kids. My work life has been full of ups and downs. I have had those moments of despair and regrets. I have made friendships and had conversations that I wouldn’t have gotten to have otherwise. I have had the opportunity to listen to thousands of sermons, a couple of hundred books, and a bunch of podcasts. I have pursued my intellectual interests and learned one thing; I want to help people win.
You see I have an ingrained desire to be the coach, the guy who comes along and lets you know that life is worth it, and if you grow it will get better.
So, I am going to do what I do.
Finding a job that fuels your fire requires three things. The first is the courage to explore. The second thing is it requires a mindset that this is only the beginning. Finally, it requires a willingness to fail.
Exploration means you have to do two things. look through jobs posted that make you excited you actually putting in for them. Make a list of what excites you about the job. Collect as much information about the work and growth curve of the job as possible. After applying to different jobs start to build a skills checklist that you will need to not only get the job you want but to kill it when you start.
Your mindset when you do get one of these jobs isn’t like okay here I am, let’s grind. No, it has to be here I am how can I serve you and how can I do more. The thing about being at the bottom is you only have one view. When you move up, when you grow, when you climb, you get a better view. Having a better view gives you a perspective you didn’t have before and might create new options for you to do something else. That something else might be the door to doing more work you love. It might be having the ability to mentor others and get the joy of watching them grow. It might be to lead new initiatives that excite and challenge you.
Finally, failing forward. Putting in for jobs also leaves us open to rejection. It leaves us hurt and with a feeling of being unwanted or not good enough. We need to flip that, when we don’t get what we want we need to take it as a sign from the Almighty asking “How bad do you want it?” The question is do you want this bad enough to try again? Do you want this bad enough to get better? Do you want this bad enough to grow into the position? We don’t know the reasons we don’t get a job. All we know is we didn’t get it. We are responsible to do the hard work and analyze why. After that, it is our time to grow, get better, so we can try our hand at work we might love. When we get it we have to keep failing. We have to try and do things in this position that will make us better, which will make the team better, which will add value.
It is easy to show up to work and act like they are responsible for your success. But the truth is you can show up to work and just be a good employee and miserable and nobody will care as long as you get the work done. Your success at finding work you enjoy is on you. People will tell you if you don’t like it you could find another job. They won’t ask what turns you on? How do you need to grow into the kind of person who does the work you would like to do? Have you spent time looking for jobs, not thinking about the money? What is 40hrs a week of passion worth to you? Do you feel like you have a life’s purpose?
Alright, I gotta go to work. 😉