The Merry Month of March

HEY YOU GUYS!

So, I started my own little NaNoWriMo this month. Which unfortunately for my blogging takes up my writing time. Whether or not I publish the book doesn’t matter to me right now, what matters is I am enjoying the process and I am letting myself loose with it. I will try to write at least one blog post a week for this month because we all need encouragement.

I really wanted to jump on right now and keep you informed of what was going on and since that is done. I hope you have a good week.

Later Gator.

Others, You, and The Best Thing You Can Do

There is no point in comparing yourself to someone else. We are all so different that comparison doesn’t make real sense if you want to be happy. Tom Cruiz and Brad Pit superstar actors, box office breakers, and completely different. Each has his own looks and strengths, but you put them together and you get Interview With a Vampire; POW! Each actor brings something different to a role and would make any part they would take their own.

That my friend is how you need to be in life. Do you!  We are all playing a part when we go to work, some of us when we get home, and again when we are with friends… Some of us need to stop acting. Really, stop acting and start being. You don’t act like a dad, you are a dad. YOu don’t act like a lady boss, you are a boss. Life has many different roles for us to fill, but if all we do is act and pretend to be someone we are not; we miss out on getting the unique opportunity to be ourselves. The roles life has to offer us, if natural to us, we will fill with ease. The work might be hard but we are not forcing ourselves to be someone we are not to do it. Here is the thing many people are stuck in jobs they hate not because the job sucks, it is because they will always suck at the job. They aren’t working their strengths, they are running when they are swimmers. They are an unnatural fit and/or do not know how to change what they do to fit them or get out of the situation altogether.

We live in quite a wealthy time. We live in a time of choice. We live in a time when we can try to overcome the necessity of unfitting work as the only option to live. I do not think we will all get there, some settle, but I do think we can all try. That effort doesn’t have to do with anyone else. Someone else’s success shouldn’t be a deterioration of your motivation, it should be an inspiration. Say to yourself “If they can do it so can I.” or “They did it, it is possible, I can do it too.” Competition is fun in a game setting, in life we die at the end, why not try to enjoy your life and make the world a little better too.

Once again- there is no point in comparing yourself. You are you and I suppose that is the best thing you can be.

Later Gator,

Nino.

Sounds True

There are a lot of things in life that sound true. Someone says it and without thinking we believe them. There are those who say something with such conviction and logic we think it must be true. Truth isn’t tricky. Truth is a straight forward careless bastard.

Here’s the thing we build our understanding of the world and how it functions based on what we individually think is true. If we share that understanding of how the world works with others we all act in accordance with that “truth.” Think about religion (all religion) to function all who participate have to adhere to and believe certain “truths” about life, God, and purpose. When people leave a religious belief behind they say they were lied to. The reason for that is they thought they were being told the truth.

Putting religion aside, we can see how someone has their “truth” about money, art, relationships, and us. We can see how someone else might believe the wrong thing about us based on someone else telling them their opinion. We can see that money and effort are not always equal, we can see that art’s value depends on human perception, we can see that not all relationships are healthy, good, or worth being in. We can also see how someone might have called us dumb and we believed them to our own detriment.

People are less skeptical when something sounds true. They will believe something just because it sounds right, they don’t investigate it. The problem with not making sure something is true is you can build your life around a false notion. Based on one false premise you could make bad decisions and destroy a relationship, or your reputation.

Here are two questions I think will help get us beyond believing false truths:

The first is, why does this sound true to me?

The second, what is the opposing view, and is it valid?

There is a simple reason this is on my mind and I am sharing it with you. Mental frameworks are how we all get by in life. We see life in a certain way and we take action accordingly. If you believe money is evil you might always be working to get some and feel dirty when you have it. You might think outsmarting someone is wrong and never get ahead. You might think that you are not good enough for a job and always miss out on opportunities that would help you thrive. You might believe you are better at something than you are and wind up looking like an asshole. Anyway- we can all choose how we see the world. For some of us, we might have to convince ourselves, but we can. We can decide to see the world as a game, a story, a challenge, or a nice long bus ride to the grave. Like a bible study class, we can build our framework of understanding and overtime think in a certain way. I am a believer in self-manipulation for the enhancement of one’s life and personal experience; in a good way. So, if something sounds true, like “I enjoy good luck.” accept it.

Something sounding true and being true aren’t the same but your brain doesn’t know any better. So, build a mental framework that puts you in the most positive and creative way of thinking possible. If something good sounds true, you can choose to believe it.

Later Gator,

Nino.

Oh, there are people who will say something that sounds true and frightening to manipulate you. Fear in my opinion is the root of all evil and leads to hate, suffering, and the deterioration of society. Be cautious when people use fear-based logic about others, most of the time they have an agenda.