April 1st

I am changing everything. Not really everything. But everything I do online. After reading my brilliant daughter’s post I had to consider what it is I was doing. What I should be doing and what I want to be doing.

I shared the post in two places. The first twitter the second my personal Facebook, the reactions for both didn’t surprise me. Friends read it and had a laugh. Twitter all but one person ignored it. (I see where most of the readers come from.) Anyway, her post wasn’t harsh, mean, or anything I didn’t expect her to say. But what it did for me was give me a moment to reassess what I have been doing.

I deleted a lot of content last night.

I do things in such an intertwined way that 90 percent of what I am thinking is left out of the content I make. For instance if I post while drinking it doesn’t mean I am hammered. It means I am on the good side of buzzed and should stop drinking, and I do. I still know what I am saying, what I want to say and it is all coherent, as coherent as I can be anyway. I don’t care what people think about me, which is why I am freer than most. I am not trying to protect an image, I just am. But her post, let me in on a problem I have; I want people to know an image of me not me. The problem is I put me-the-personal-and private-me in all I do.

And that is what I deleted when I deleted content last night.

It is what I am going to continue to do as I move forward. I am going to give the world the persona. My personality will still be there, but not my private-self, instead the world will get the persona. I will purge and build at the same time. The thing is I was working on selfish motives. What did I want to put out, what entertained me. Moving to a persona, is how can I serve through this personality; how does this post help my audience? I want to write for a living which means I cannot be playing around. I need to do things different. That is where we are my dear readers.

Until next time.


My Father is a Weirdo

Hello everyone, this is Angel(aka Nino’s daughter)! I am the first born child in my family. That means that I have spent the most time with my crazy parents. I have lived a wild 18 years where a lot has happened. I have learned so much about everything, but I mostly have learned about how weird my dad is. He is probably one of this weirdest people out there. He is one of those dads that want to be cool, but just aren’t.

I mean he has TikTok and doesn’t even know how to use it correctly. He makes videos of him showing off his face with as many filters as possible like he’s an attractive teenage boy. That isn’t even the worst of his TikToks. There is times he posts videos of him with some extremely weird filter (like a dog or bear face filter) and will “act” like he is that filter. He says the most weird things. He thinks he is hilarious and he laughs sooo much at his videos. I just don’t understand his humor sometimes.

Not only is he this weird on TikTok, but he also is this way on Snapchat. I find his Snapchat to be a bit more embarrassing. Some of my friends follow him on there cause they think he’s funny. I’m not gonna lie, there are times that he does have a funny posts. All the other times are umm, well they’re interesting. He likes to do the filters and do the whole “acting” thing, but he will also take the weirdest videos and post them on there. He has posted selfies of him with my dog pooping in the background and he’ll record me while I don’t know and he’ll put a filter on me. For example, the other day he put an old lady filter on my face and started recording me. I didn’t realize that he was recording me until in the middle of our conversation he started calling me a witch. So all of my friends who have him on Snapchat saw my “witch” video.

So not only does my dad think he is cool with TikTok and Snapchat, but he also has like 4 different Instagram accounts. I don’t understand why he has to have so many. I only follow one because who has time to keep up with all those accounts. On the account that I follow, he just posts a lot of selfies that are edited with all the fancy Instagram filters. Occasionally he will have my mom and my youngest sister pop up in a posts. (He makes it obvious who his favorites in the house are and for some reason I am not one of them :/ ).

The platform that he is the absolute weirdest on is Twitter. This app is probably the most dangerous one. He just puts his thoughts on there as if it’s okay. Now by the time I got twitter, I became smart enough to know not to follow him. Just because I don’t follow him though doesn’t mean that I don’t see his tweets. My dad will post a lot of different things. He’ll put some serious thoughts and opinions on there and sometimes he’ll put something that he thinks is funny. Occasionally he will combine those two and it turns into a long tweet that I just don’t understand. I don’t ask to see his tweets, but after he posts them he’ll ask me and my mom to read them as if he needs our approval for something he already posted. There are times when they are funny and I can laugh at them easily. The other times I sometimes don’t know how to act.

My dad loves the whole social media thing and you can tell from these I have been telling you about and the fact that he has every other social media platform like Facebook and other old people social media. That’s just the social media part of his weirdness. I think he gets a lot weirder when I talk about boys. My dad gets uncomfortable when this subject gets brought up. He even does some of the weirdest things when it comes to boys.

There was a time a boy came and picked me up for a date and he sent my one sister out to the car and told the boy that I needed a chaperon. The boy was freaked out and thought that he was being serious. Even the other couple who was sitting in the car thought that she was coming with. Now I have a constant fear for when a boy comes to pick me up for a date. I have a big fear that my dad is going to do something weird and super embarrassing.

Not only is my dad weird with the whole dating thing for me, but it got worse when I had my first kiss. My dad gave me a kissing curfew. Like what the heck is that?! My dad made up a stupid rule that I couldn’t hang out with guys he thought that I would kiss past 10pm until I turned 18. He said I could go and make out with any guy as long as it was before 10pm. I kissed that boy when I was 17 and haven’t kissed anyone since. I am not the kind of person that just goes our and kisses every guy I see, but that’s how he thought of it. He made a rule that I don’t necessarily need or ever did need.

What is weird though, is the fact that he is weird about every boy I talk about except for this one boy. I think my dad approves of him because this boy has told me how he thinks my dad is funny and an attractive man. So I have come to the conclusion that my dad approves of boys that boost his self esteem.

Anyways I have realized that this has become a very long post, so if ya’ll give this a lot of love I will be back with another post. I’ll post something about other weird things he’s done or just some fun stories about my awesome relationship with my weird dad.

So byeeeeeee!

Note for my dad: I love you so much and I appreciate you and your weirdness so much. This was not to diss on you in any way, I just started typing and this is what came out of it. Anyways thanks for letting me post on your blog or whatever this is. Thanks for everything you do. I love you!!

5 Subtle Ways Of Self-Promotion

So, yesterday’s post was a bit of what not to do. I haven’t gone back and read it. Because I am careless like that. But I looked at the title and kinda remembered what I wrote. So, to keep this simple here are five ways to self-promote.

  1. Share what you are learning. Unless you are an established authority in a field your best bet is to share what is new to you. You don’t have to be the best. You just have to be willing to learn and share.
  2. Promote one thing through one channel. I suck at this on purpose. I blog through my name. But I just like to write and share ideas, I don’t care what people think of me. But if you want to self-promote use ideas, passions, or interests as lighting rods. Most people are the car guy, or the sports girl, or the community build dude. I don’t know I am try to be vague so you can place yourself in the (subject) (Noun). Ah, horror author. right. This gives people a shared affinity they can get to know you by.
  3. Do the thing. Let’s take writing as our example. I am a writer. I write; I can legitimately tell the world this is what I do. I can do it poorly and still be a writer. I can do it and get paid a lot of money and the title wouldn’t change. So, when you are self-promoting do the thing. Let’s say you want to be a marketer. It is too obvious to write about marketing. Instead find your lightning rod interest and actually build a marketing philosophy and strategy to promote it and then do it. This establishes credibility and gives you experience in building something beyond talking about something. (It is the reason I bang my head against the wall trying to write a novel. Novels or books are the writers there I did something.)
  4. Nobody cares until they need your help. I know that sounds harsh. But here is the thing you don’t care who is a good plumber until you need a plumber. The same thing goes for good movies. A famous person will get me into a movie because I trust they will try and only be in good movies. If it is a comedy I look at two things, comedian staring in it and the subject matter. Now if you want to be considered for something, then doing that thing comes in handy. If you do it a lot. If you are consistent over time you will prove to someone that you not only know a lot about it, but you can also deliver. Think about the hobbyist that gets hit up to make or build something all the time. Their consistency and passion for what they are doing is self-promotion enough.
  5. Actually self-promote. That is right. Brag. Don’t humble brag. Just flat-out brag. As your list of credits grows talk about the things you are most happy with and the things you are most known for. If you built a kick-ass app. Let people know it. Most people aren’t going to stalk you to learn what you have done. Think about it like being a gallery artist. You have to promote, your name, your work, what it is about. You have to try to get people in the gallery, you have to print up flyers, build an email list, try and build a fan base and a patronage that supports your living and working. Creation is one job, promotion is another one, the artist works two full-time jobs.

Now I am going to throw in a bonus sixth point:

Connect with people in your field. I do not do this. I refuse to do this. I have a hard time doing this. You don’t need to connect with everyone, you just need to connect with people who care about you and want you to succeed as much as you want the same for them. If you start a consultancy business realize you cannot help everyone in your town. If you know some of the other consultants you can pass work on to them. They will do the same. Or you might be in the creative field and someone knows a director who is looking for a mystery writer to help on a movie, I don’t know. Your friend who is working on a different project tells him to hit you up. Connecting with people in your field doesn’t mean you become their guru or answer man. It means you can connect and freely talk back and forth about ideas and interest. You can grow together. One out of a thousand people might become a connection like this. The rest will know of you and might just keep an eye on you, because they like you but prefer to like you from a far.

So much for a quick five points.

Later Gator.

Your friend,