I will be transitioning the writing of this blog from kinda helpful posts to humor posts that poke fun at problems while giving solutions. There is an excellent reason for it. Okay, it isn’t excellent, it is completely subjective. But here you go: I don’t want to give life advice.
Am I funny? That is the real question I ask myself and I respond with a smile and say no. I am not funny, but I’m not into being serious. People who cannot laugh, people who are always, always, always trying to improve, people who don’t get that life is hard and the best defense humans have for a hard life is humor, well they aren’t the people I want to spend time with. I want to spend time with people who I can make laugh, people who get my humor and at the same time don’t have to keep up a persona of this is “who I am, I better not break character.” My best friendships are a mixed bag of life advice, bullshit, and humor. We give our advice and opinion because we shared our problems. We bullshit because we have things in common, we laugh because we have a shared sense of humor. None of my friends are like me. I am sure none of my readers are just like me too. But I am sure we can connect better over a joke, we can bullshit over the happenings in the world and yes, share life advice.
The above Later Gator has been how I closed most of my communication. It is my simple way of keeping it loose and friendly. As I write this I look like a treasure troll in a blue robe hungover wishing it was Saturday. Now, going forward, I will be writing a bit more about me, I love-hate it, but I think it will serve you my beautiful readers best. I will write with my poor sense of humor and overtime improve until one day, we both can’t wait to read a funny story at 5 in the F’n morning. Until then,
P.S. I wrote the total bullshit headline for fun because I didn’t want to actually come up with one that read, The Blog Is Going To Be Funny Now, Hopefully.
We Start Somewhere
We think the same thoughts we thought yesterday. I read it, heard it, and it sounds true to my experience. Most of us walk around with the same thoughts and problems we had from last year. Yes, they might be in different forms. But they are the same problems. We got those problems because we thought they were a solution to a pre-existing problem. That problem probably started in high school, how am I going to make it.
When We Don’t Deal With OUr Problems
We gradually become what we think about. If we are focus, really focus on solving a goal then ba-da-bing! Somehow we are going to solve the problem. Unless we only find a short term solution to the problem. Then the problem persists and our thinking does too. The best way to overcome a problem is to outgrow it. But that won’t happen if we are so fixated on the problem that we cannot see beyond it. This goes for professional and personal problems. But here is what happens. No matter what our problem is if we do not deal with it, it will get worse. It is like a bad tooth, it will erode until you see the roots. Problems will get to the core of who you are. If we continually think about the wrong solutions to our problems it will become exposed over time.
We are in a Death Loop
We walk in a circle. If a human gets lost in the forest, desert, anywhere, we will walk in a circle. We do the same thing with our problems. When we choose to only see the solutions we have we are lost, and our only resource is our imaginary compass. If you look at the current political climate, you will see what repetitive thinking has done. It not only locks in poor solutions, it makes enemies out of anyone who would disagree. There is no room to experiment, no room to try and grow, it is a sad state. But that is how the death loop works, it comes back to original problem solving without considering a new solution, without outgrowing the problem. The Death Loop of poor thinking will leave a person planning to do something and never doing it. It will leave a person taking action on their dreams only to get as far as the first set back. It will bring down a company because “we tried that” or “That’s not the way we do it.” The Death Loop comes back to poor problem-solving.
FREEDOM is PAIN…
To get out of the Death Loop you have to feel the growing pain of change. You have to do something different. You ave to change the crowd you are in. You have to get out of your head and into someone else’s. You have to accept that someone else is right about your problem. You have to face the fact that your “obstacle” is a personal excuse and that is what is holding you back. The Death Loop will want you to come back, it will want you to relapse, it will repeat the thoughts and solutions of yesterday. The Death Loop cannot survive if you actually change and grow. The mental work of growth is to literally think new thoughts and the only way to get them is to actively seek them. Break free of the same voices. There is a reason all industries sound the same. It isn’t until someone comes in with different ideas that an industry gets disrupted, but when it does, look out, things change fast; the same goes for personal and professional lives.
“Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness. ”Martin Luther King Jr
Most of us start the day with a selfish thought, what do I got to get done today. What can I accomplish that will fulfill my needs? How can I get what I want? We are totally focused on ourselves and this continues throughout the day until we finally need to get some sleep.
We don’t have our purpose set on giving. We don’t look to help others, we don’t do with the sense of service. It seems we were raised to go out and get what we can, and society assumes that doing good is natural. But the simple truth is doing good isn’t. It is why most people fail to actually succeed in life, until their older. At some point in life, we realize that it is better to give. We stop being selfish and say wait a minute, I want people to enjoy the benefits of my talents, I don’t want to die with my gift in me unwrapped.
Once we live out our gift, our life’s results are no longer our problem, we aren’t focused on getting. We become focused on giving. We become obsessed with making sure it is spread out there. We find avenues to use it. We serve with it. We pursue doing good, we pursue purpose. the results are in God’s hands.
I write in light of the day; Martin Luther King Jr Day. A life used for the benefit of others, a life harassed and taken for granted because of the color of his skin. A man who faced hate, oppression, systematic oppression, belittling, death threats, and all this before he became the voice for good, for love, for justice. Read his work, live in his world, understand that it would have been easier to respond with anger, with hate, with violence. But instead, he lived with purpose. He isn’t a memory but living words of wisdom, his thoughts are to be echoed, and a life to be modeled. Walk in the light my friends and do good.